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Overcoming Fear

Fear is only as deep as the mind allows.
Japanese Proverb

After last week’s blog post on fear, I wanted to follow up with how to overcome a fear.

And all week, I was unsure how I was going to do that.

I did a lot of researching fear and ways to overcome. I looked up phobias (and did you know there are over 500 documented phobias? There is even a phobia of phobias!) I looked up quotes. And after all those hours? Not much resonated. I had to get down to the basic first.

I went back to what is fear? I discussed this last week some. It is only a feeling. It is a belief that we have. It is ONLY an emotion.

So, how do we change a belief?

First, we have to get to know it. Get buddy-buddy with it. Learn why it is there. Is it an event that happened to you in the past? Is it something that happened to someone you know? Was it something you read or watched?

One thing I have learned is it is usually not what we think right away. There is almost always something underneath the feeling we have.

The best advice I have been given my entire life is: Get out of your head.

Easier said than done. It took me a long time to learn to get out of my head. To be able to ignore everything that was really going on and to quiet my inner critic so my subconscious could do its work.

Now that we have gotten to where we are out of our heads, thinking clearly, and know our fear a little bit better, I would like to go into one way to overcome the fear.

Journaling.

Grab a notebook and your favorite pen or pencil. Go somewhere where you can have peace and quiet. I also suggest finding a spacious area where you feel like you have plenty of room.

Now, write down the fear you have. What does this fear feel like? Where in your body do you have this fear? What does it do to your posture?

Write out what may have caused this fear.

Once that’s all out on paper, you can keep it in your journal or you may wish to get rid of it. Rip up those old feelings, put it in a shredder, or throw it in a fire. (Please be careful with the last one. 😉 )

It feels good to get all of that out of the way, doesn’t it?

On to changing the belief.

What is the new belief you want to create? Write this down. Write down how this new belief makes you feel. Write down how this new belief helps you.

Make a mantra out of it. Write it in present tense. “I got this.” “I am brave.”

Put your mantra on some colorful paper and put it up where you see it daily. Or put it as the background on your computer.

If you still have a fear that is limiting you, I suggest finding a life coach to help you through it.

Time to send your fear out the door!

Please let me know in the comments what worked for you. 🙂

Have a great day!

 

*Disclaimer: I am not a professional. These are just steps that have worked for me that I am passing on so that it can help others too.

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admin@jenniferlynncoaching.com

Comments

Jennifer
April 30, 2017 at 8:27 pm

Great work on this one, I think our inner critic is responsible for stopping us, also we have to be cautious that it is there, and has the best intentions of protecting us, but we have to move forward and past this inner voice , to allow for growth. Thanks!!



    admin
    April 30, 2017 at 9:55 pm

    Our inner critic is responsible for a lot! The first step is learning to be able to recognize our inner critic. Then it’s learning how to quiet it. 🙂



May 3, 2017 at 1:21 am

I’ve learned how to overcome negativity in my life and fear is one of those. Thanks for sharing!



    admin
    May 3, 2017 at 6:27 am

    Yes! Sometimes we don’t even realize we are being negative. We get caught in a negativity loop and it gets hard to get out of. It’s so refreshing when we do! 🙂



May 6, 2017 at 4:52 pm

Thank yo so much for this post. Journaling has been the best thing for me to help me heal from some tragic things. I forget sometimes what power it has. I have faced a lot of fears in my dreams as well. I had a dream one time that aliens came to take me away, I told them I would go without my kids. I had to face the fear of leaving my kids for whatever unknown reasons.



Shante
June 7, 2017 at 9:01 am

Loved this article ! Great stuff!



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